Hey gang! Melissa here, first of all I want to shout out a huge, Happy Mother’s Day!, to all the amazing women out there being amazing moms! So many of my girlfriends are moms and I see a fraction of their lives and it is hard work! Y’all are winning at motherhood! Since I am not in that season of motherhood (yet!!) I’ve asked one of my best gal pals, Robin, to share some thoughts with you that will help you with the daily grind of motherhood! Robin and I have been best friends since like forever!
She’s taught me SO much over the years – from practical stuff to spiritual stuff – she’s been an all around example to me. I can call her an example cause she’s older then me LOL! Ok, she might smack me for that so let’s move on… Robin is an amazing mom to 4 boys! Yup, you read that right – 4 boys! So it’s safe to say she knows a thing or two about motherhood! Along with her husband Jordan they have the sweetest and cutest boys: Harrison, Bennett, Montgomery and Pierce – with the cutest names!!!
5 Keys to being a more relaxed Mom:
1. Make yourself a priority
I have this as the very first point because as Mother’s we can put taking care of ourselves at the bottom of our priority list. But what good are we to our children, spouse and others if we are run down and running on a empty tank. Take time for you! Take a bath, go for a walk, get a massage, do a workout…get those endorphins going, etc…just do something that will make you feel relaxed.
2. Stop The Comparrison Game
Whatever type of parent you are, you are exactly what your child needs! God doesn’t make mistakes! It is so easy to look at other moms who seem to have it more together and start picking yourself apart or you start tearing apart other moms on what they could be doing better. But guess what? None of us are perfect! If we were we wouldn’t need Jesus. We are all trying to do our best.
3. Pick your battles
Ive been told that I’m such a laid back parent but as they say that I have all of the times I have lost my temper on my kids running through my head. Parenting is NOT for the faint of heart. Those little ones who you love unconditionally and would do absolutely anything for know exactly how to push your buttons over and over again, haha. But I’ve learnt that not everything they do has to be a battle. Ask yourself is it worth the fight? For example, if we are home for the day and my kids want to wear pajamas all day, guess what? It’s a jammie day. It’s not worth the tears.
4. Be consistent
Being consistent is easier said than done. It is very important and something we should always be checking ourselves on. When we are consistent our children know how we are going to act. They learn where the boundaries are and there is less meltdowns when they know what to expect.
5. Less is more
I’ve learnt that my kids are a lot happier when they have less toys to choose from. Now don’t get me wrong they still have toys but we really try and limit how many toys come into our house. Here’s why; First the toy messes stress me out and a stressed out momma is not a momma my children need. Second, my children play better when they can see what they actually have. More of their toys actually get played with than sit scattered in a mess all over the floor. They use their imaginations and make up stories. It’s a win win in my books. You get a cleaner house, your not stressed out and your children are happy.
In saying all this we need to remember to put Jesus first. Matthew 6:33 NLT says, “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”
He knows what to do in each and every situation of our lives!!!
He knows the beginning from the end. He wants nothing but the best for us. I am constantly asking for His wisdom, James 1:5 MSG says, “If you don’t know what you’re doing, pray to the Father.” He loves to help. You’ll get his help, and won’t be condescended when you ask for it.” Ladies, He loves to help us! We don’t need to do it on our own!
So give yourselves a break and know that you are doing an AWESOME job!!!